Divorcing When You Still Love Your Spouse

 Posted on June 28, 2017 in Family Law

Hollywood often portrays divorce as simple and clear-cut, but real-life divorce is rarely straightforward. The reasons, though irrelevant in the courtroom, are often complex and multi-faceted, and couples often experience intense emotions. Also, contrary to the myth, some couples divorce but still love one another. How do you navigate such a painful process when you still have feelings for your spouse? The following explains, and it provides you with some valuable information on the Illinois divorce process.

Love and Divorce

Loving a spouse does not mean divorce is off the table. In fact, many marriages end, despite a shared love between the parties. Some begin to recognize that the relationship is toxic. Others may feel as though they are being held back by their spouse’s lack of ambition or adventure. Some have started to realize they would be happier on their own.

The reasons that couples want to divorce are not incorrect or invalid, but neither is the love that they still share. To move forward, couples typically need to separate the legal aspects of divorce from the emotional ones. Knowing you can walk away as friends or, at the very least, amicable, can be a motivating factor for learning how to do this.

Separating the Emotion from Divorce

Divorce is, by nature, an emotional process. Yet, in the courtroom, the process is legal, and more like a business contract than a marriage. Judges examine various factors, like financial and non-financial contributions to the marriage when deciding how to divide assets. A child’s best interests override the feelings of the parents. Because of this, it is often best if couples find a way to remove the emotion from the legal process. Of course, this is often easier said than done. A few strategies that may help include:

• Using attorneys to communicate during the divorce process;
• Pursuing a mediated divorce, instead of a litigated one;
• Avoiding discussions over one another’s personal life;
• Focusing on the best interests of your child;
• Attending therapy or a support group; and
• Limiting contact until you have healed from the grieving process.

Contact Our DuPage County Divorce Lawyers

If you are planning on filing for divorce and are struggling with conflicting feelings, contact Mevorah & Giglio Law Offices for assistance. Our DuPage County family law attorneys understand that every divorce is unique, and we provide personalized services to suit your needs. Schedule a free consultation to learn more about how we can assist with your case. Call 630-932-9100 today.

Source:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/18/fashion/weddings/11-questions-to-ask-before-getting-a-divorce.html?mcubz=0